If you know me from Twitter, you know me as JoyMagnet. People reply to many of my tweets with “Hi, Joy”, thinking that is my first name and I don’t mind at all.
I chose the name a few years ago when I was consciously trying to bring more happiness into my life. To me, joy means doing what you know you are meant to do, whether that is being a parent, working in a particular career or being creative.
Writing brings me joy. So does studying law. For a long time I was torn, thinking I had to choose one side of my brain over the other, that I couldn’t be both creative and analytical too. Now I know that’s not true. I am balanced, not concentrating on one half of myself at the neglect of another.
This has been the key to my happiness because for a long time I thought I could only be a writer if I could do it full-time, no day job required. And so, when life as a single parent required me to work to support three children, I was angry that I couldn’t stay home and write. So I didn’t write at all.
Now I write while I study for a new career and I feel better than ever–I am finally at peace with myself. And that brings me the most joy of all.